Good fences make good neighbors?

“Good fences make good neighbors” is a line of the poem Mending wall written by Robert Frost which I came across while reading something on the internet. The poem is about the relationship between neighbors and more generally about the relationship between people. The question is do we have to keep distant from one another and if the answer is yes, what is the distance we have to keep in order to have a good relationship between our neighbors and humans in general?

First thing we have to think about is, is the wall necessary? In the poem we can see that the author didn’t seem to like the wall, but the neighbor seems to prefer it. The advantage of the wall is that we can limit the amount of privacy one can have. The disadvantages of walls are that we unintentionally distance people from ourselves, and in the process we hurt their feelings. 

However and this is coming from the point of view of the speaker, if we don’t build a wall we will give a more comfortable atmosphere which is nice, but on the other hand should we sacrifice our own comfort by reducing the level of our own privacy? By putting up a wall we clearly establish a border between ourselves, and the world around us, between how much we want to give out to the world and how much we want to take in.

To conclude we can say, yes we need to build fences and not walls. Walls between people provide huge gaps and alienate us from one another, while fences provide us with a level of privacy, which is enough for ourselves, and also prevents us from being too intrusive into other people’s lives.

"People have discovered that they can fool the devil; but they can't fool the neighbors."

Francis Bacon

XOXO A.